The huge desire in everybody’s hearts, minds, and actual cells, driving them towards sex means that sex occupies a lot of our thoughts.
That’s how it is.
60,000 thoughts a day, and if you were to count, a lot of them would be on sex/relationships.
So okay, if sex is gonna be on your mind, wouldn’t it be good to have really good thoughts?
And I’m gonna help you by giving you 40 resources that most people miss. 40 websites, authors, and ideas on sex that’ll blow the doors open for you on all kinds of stuff.
People wanna know about protection, about fantasies, about relationships. Below I’ll cover all that and so much more.
And I’ll do it with fresh views on stuff that matters.
Note: I often talk about polarity, masculine-feminine balance, and how everyone has their own choice to be anything at any given time. For this post I’m just gonna use “chick” to mean feminine and “guy” to mean masculine. Cool? Cool.
Note 2: Many of the ideas here are… “out there”. They push boundaries. You guys are smart, you can make your own decisions. These are here to help you explore and enjoy a little self-discovery. Booyah.
I’ll also divide the list up into 2 sections, one more for guys, and one more for chicks, for easy reading
“Before success comes in any man’s life, he’s sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit. That’s exactly what the majority of men do. — Napoleon Hill”
|Authentic Man Within||“Enliven yourself and the women you interact with.” – They talk about how passion, integrity, and openness attract tons of chicks|
|Art Of Manliness||Reviving the lost art of manliness. Teaching badassery.|
|Male Metrics||Tips for your most attractive you.|
|Wing Girl Method||Marni explains secrets about women no chick will ever tell you|
So there ya go, hopefully this stuff helps you become a better man. It’s all helped me
“I with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” — Anais Nin
|Sex, Love, And Liberation||Ev’Yan has a very open, chick-positive community|
|The Feminine Woman||Renee Wade gets it and runs this site with her husband. Reading her stuff almost brings tears to me eyes. I’d love more women to check this out.|
|The Seductive Woman||Seduction and the feminine arts. Learn something, then try it out on me .|
|Goddess Intellect||A fellow Toronto-ite, G.I. has a really fresh perspective on body image, relationships, and more.|
I’ve read all kinds of stuff on femininity, masculinity, and self-development, and personally I’d love some nicer, clearer, more appealing resources to help chicks excel. Feels like there’s a gap in the market, but the stuff above is pretty awesome
“Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” — Khalil Gibran.”
|Reuniting.info||Healin with sexual relationships.|
|Your Tango||Smart talk about love.|
|Ideagasms||Relationships + spirituality.|
|Wabi Sabi Love||The ancient art of finding the perfect partner.|
When people think of “relationships” they’re usually thinking of LTRs (long-term) where people grow together and it gets deeper over time.
And you know… there’s something to that
“The most powerful thing in human biology is a new idea. ” — Anon.
|The Beautiful Cervix Project||A grassroots movement celebrating the beauty and intricacies of women’s bodies and fertility!|
|Be Aware Of How You Masturbate||Keesling gives a step by step lol.|
|What’s The Big Deal About Naked Photos?||Emily puts the stigma and shame of photographing naked bodies to shame|
|10 Things You Don’t Know About Orgasm||Mary Roach gets funny and informative about coming.|
You ever notice how uncomfortable people get about *completely natural* things?
They’re fine with flowers pollenating, but as soon as you start talking about cats, dogs, or humans, the cringe-factor increases.
Well, that’s not my style. I accept myself, I accept nature, and I accept you. Hopefully some of the body-resources above gave you a “leg up” (pun totally intended, ’cause that’s how I roll.)
“My idea of safe sex is a padded headboard.” — Anon.
|Fertility Awareness Method||Considered by some to be an unreliable and foolish method of birth-control, FAM is also considered by many of those to be the ultimate form of birth-control. At advanced levels it requires no tools, freeing partners up completely. See also: Taking charge of your fertility.|
|Ejaculation Control||Control your ejaculation and enjoy the beauty in accessory-less, condom-less, skin-to-skin sex? Sounds pretty good eh? Worth exploring? If you’re happy doing what you’ve been doing, by all means keep at it. If on the other hand you’re open to more, perhaps check this out.|
|Contracept.org||A comprehensive look at contraception.|
This stuff kinda goes hand in hand with the body control stuff. Some people are completely comfortable with it, some not, but either way, here’s a fresh look at options and what’s out there.
“I generally avoid temptation, unless I can’t resist it.” — Mae West
|Menstruation Mastery||Menstruation is often thought of as a burden: automatic, and unchangeable. Healing Tao shines a different light. It’s viewed as a beautiful part of the body, and as a guiding sign and a cycling system. See also this.|
|FLOLiving||Period Problems? Trying to Conceive Naturally? Wondering where your energy for life and sex drive went? Want to discover what’s blocking the. FLO in your life?|
|Male Multiple Orgasms||A basic introduction to new ways of pleasure from AskMen.com|
|Direct Your Energy||A forum thread talking about Napoleon Hill and Sex Transmutation.|
And even more coolness you’ve probably never looked into… but maybe it’s worth checking out? Mm? Maybe?
“Don’t knock masturbation – it’s sex with someone I love.” — Woody Allen
|On Conscious Submission||Submissiveness in the past was kind of like… status quo for women, and then it became something seen as ‘weak’. There’s another way – a simple, freely made, conscious choice.“Submissive acts grant me an inherent license to experience pleasure in acts that my mind would usually fear. Usually, that is when I am not bound, not gagged, not restrained by word or deed, when a man is fucking me forcefully, usually, my mind remains active. Those busy, busy whirring hamster wheels of my head keep me feeling afraid, and they keep me from experiencing fully every tidbit of pleasure I could get from the experience.
Those hamster wheels get in the way, what with their furry and fearful ceaseless whirring.”
|Taken In Hand||Going even further down the rabbit hole, but very, very interesting|
|On Conscious Domination||Steve Pavlina’s interesting experiment with D/s. Quite an eye-opener from a very well-respected personal development author.|
|On Fantasies||“All those nasty, to-the-limit, semi-rape, full blown gang-bang scenarios that my mind seem to slip into in the most matter-of-fact manner…They are simply mind fuel, scenes and gestures, still pictures, words and details that my mind have found to be the most arousing bits and pieces it can come up with. And sometimes, they will inspire reality. Small parts of them can be lived out and tested, limits can be pushed and challenged…Somehow, those fantasies are also the very core of my sexuality. They tell me how my sexual mind works, what it is attracted to.” – Bliatz|
Ah yeah, the good stuff. These are resources on some of the most intense aspects of sex, power dynamics, and deeper feelings that many people don’t want, or won’t let, themselves experience.
“Only in sex the noise sometimes stops. I say “sometimes”. If you have become habitual in sex also, as husbands and wives become, then it never stops. The whole act becomes automatic and the mind goes on its own. Then sex also is a boredom.” — Osho
|David Deida||Super insightful and provocative spiritual teacher. My personal mentor for all things sexual|
|Mantak Chia||Another great, eastern-flavoured, and famous for multiple orgasm teachings.|
|Saida Desilets||Author of The Emergence Of The Sensual Woman, Saida’s got lots to offer.|
|The Love Shopper||Investigating the “dating industrial complex”, and delivering deep musings on relationships.|
These peeps are worth paying attention to, their lives are dedicated to wisdom, and they live and breathe it. You could read another Cosmo and hope to really get some life-changing stuff, or you can read the links above. Your call.*
*K, I guess you can read both
|Orgasmic Birth||The world’s best kept secret|
|SubmissiveLoving.com||Helpful, sound, realistic advice for anyone interested in submissives and dominants.|
|EsoDates.com||Free spiritual dating service for people interested in esoteric topics.|
|Honey Money – The Power Of Erotic Capital||Book review: A blueprint for a sexual free market.|
|Facts And Chicks||Just fun images and words|
|13 Smartest Pornstars Of All Time||“From earning PhDs to starting small businesses, here are the smartest, geekiest and most driven porn stars of all time. Porn Stars are often derided for being unintelligent and shallow, but let’s be honest, they were smart enough to make a living at something we all do for free.”|
|The 18 Most Explicit Music Videos Ever||NSFW|
|50 Sexual Things To Do Before You Die||How many have you done, and what’s on your bucket list?|
|GoodInBed.com||Welcome to good in bed, where we believe sex matters.|
|OnePinky.com||Healthy weight through healthy body image.|
|An Ode To Orgasms||Clutch magazine tends to be pretty interesting.|
|Filthy Gorgeous Things Magazine||FGT tends to be pretty stimulating|
|Bonding Behaviors||The lazy way to stay in love.|
|Pretty Dumb Things||Smarter than you’re average bare.|
|The Beauty Of Porn||A refreshing look at 7 different ways porn is helpful, beautiful, and something to appreciate.|
What can I say, I’ve got a lot of links. I could go on, lol. Maybe I’ll do a sequel.
Now, I’ve studied this stuff for years, and a lot of these things are not results that’ll show up if you just google sh-t.
They’re great, they’re interesting, but they’re the tip of the iceberg. Sex is a deep subject (lol), and it’s up to you how much focus you give it.
You could click like… one of these links, or you could bookmark this and make it a point to read a link regularly, and really expand your horizons.
It’s your call.
In the meantime, why don’t you share a resource or link of your own, or even better… a story!